Do you feel
a part of your family? Do other family
members feel a part of your family? Do
you feel a part of the team where you work? Or, the Church where you attend and
serve? It seems some of us are walking
through life unsure where we fit in. We
feel insecure and not sure where we belong.
Others of us feel like we are in charge and have the whole world on our
shoulders. We practice directing people
here and there and expect them to accomplish our vision for the family, the
work place and the Church.
Richard and
I began what we called Family Council when the children were very young. We did this because we wanted our children
to feel a part of the decisions that were being made about and for them. Our goal was to let them know they had in
put. We sincerely wanted to know what
their opinion was and how fair or not fair the decisions really were. This was not totally democratic. We used to laugh about the fact that when
all was said and done, dad and mom had 5 votes.
I am not sure if the children
thought that was funny? We hope they
felt that we did modify some of our decisions because of their feelings and
experience now and then.
It is my
opinion that this type of interaction promotes “team spirit.” We are all in this together. It is valuable to be on the same page of
reviewing our goals and objectives together.
We use to say we hire people or ask for volunteers that will make us
look good--do what we could not do alone. No one can do it all – even
in the family. We need many hands, feet
and minds. Encourage conversation - listening and talking where ever you are and "start over" when ever you need to.
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